Thursday, December 31, 2009


Happy New Year from Times Square.

Thanks to smalls for steadying the camera and shooing away all the curious tourists.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Six Degrees of Sex

You’ve heard of six degrees of separation, the sociology postulate-cum-parlor game popularized by John Guare’s play of the same name. The idea is that any two people on the planet may be connected by as few as five individuals. Connect yourself to Kevin Bacon and you’ve taken a hyperboost to your connectivity, as he is the apparent center of the six degrees universe.

My friends and I like to play six degrees of sex, which operates on the same principle, albeit in a somewhat sluttier derivation.

As it happens, anyone who plays the numbers with me gets cozy with the King, as I am five degrees of sex from Elvis. I slept with someone who slept with someone who slept with Ann-Margret who slept with Elvis. That’s a whole lot of shakin’ for me to pass on.

I’m fortunate to be linked to a pivot like Ann-Margret, as she’s had many affairs with the loose and famous. Because she slept with Warren Beatty, I’m six degrees of sex to Madonna. Sex with me leaves you seven degrees from Madge, which falls off the chart, but you do get a little shampoo in the bargain.

For a writing project, I’m collecting stories of six degrees of sex. Are you or someone you know six (or fewer) degrees of sex from an interesting connection? Perhaps it’s with a celebrity—hey, play your cards right and I can get you cozy with the King—or perhaps it’s via some other set of connections. Does your six degrees of sex led you circuitously back to a family member? Does it take you down Main Street, from fire department to post office to service station? Or perhaps it takes you back in time—a friend of mine, a gay man in his fifties, can trace six degrees of sex to Walt Whitman.

If you get lucky, you may find a prodigious pivot (like my Ann-Margret) who takes you in multiple directions. Curiously enough, it’s unlikely to be Kevin Bacon: he’s been married to Kyra Sedgwick for twenty years, and while it’s said that the couple likes their sex rough, they also apparently like it monogamous.

Think you’ve got a good story? Drop me a line at

Friday, December 25, 2009

Jonny McGovern

Dirty Gay Christmas

Gather 'round for Jonny McGovern's holiday classic, as well as the new song pimped (by the Gay Pimp) as "an ode to the bottoms."

Bossy Bottom

Thursday, December 24, 2009


Merry Christmas from Rockefeller Center. And thanks to Meg for crowd control and camera work.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

I Kissed A Boy

I Kissed A Boy

I Kissed A Boy is a new anthology of stories about first encounters between men. I contributed a true story about the last kiss I shared with the first boy I kissed. It’s a story about two straight boys in love, and how a love that confused us as teenagers would endear us to one another for life. We were open about loving one another—even now, this strikes me as remarkable, given when and where we grew up—and, as the story relates, our affection was always noted by our friends and families, and even by our future spouses. You'll need to get out your hankies for this one.

The stories in I Kissed A Boy are by turns arousing and moving, and include some great romantic writing. Enjoy!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

The Upper Floor’s The Upper Floor launched today, building on the narrative developments introduced in Sex and Submission and heightened in The Training of O. For the new site, has transformed the upper floor of their San Francisco castle into an Edwardian manor. Slaves trained in the castle’s dungeons are elevated in status to serve in the manor. The emphasis is on protocol; if The Marketplace book series changed the way you think about tea service, you’ll want to visit The Upper Floor.

While we’re talking kink online, have you joined Fetlife? It’s a great free social network for kinksters. Many of my friends and I are members. It’s proven to be a great resource for meeting people and learning about kink events. And do I get play from it? Why yes, I do. You’ll find me here.

Now is a good time to join. As a holiday promotional, Fetlife is giving away up to twenty-five thousand dollars in kinky gifts. Enter to win.